Date Nights at Home

date nights at home

If you’re a family like us with young kids, and don’t leave your very little ones with babysitters, then the date night options are a little slim picking aren’t they?  But there are still heaps of fun things you can do at home, even if you’re trying to be careful about your spending.  The main thing is to make it something intentional that you do – carving out that time to be together, even if it means you are left out of the Facebook loop, the following days homeschooling will be a bit ad-lib, and the laundry pile sits there for another day.  🙂

So here’s some ideas from some of the things we’ve been doing together lately, and some we’ve yet to do.  Yes, I have been neglecting my blog a little, but I’m so enjoying being with my husband more.

  1. Watch your favourite movie or series together‘Lark Rise to Candleford’ is a great one, as is ‘Emma‘.  If you like ‘Pride and Prejudice’ and ‘Downton Abbey’, you’ll love these ones.  And best of all, they’re free on YouTube.
  2. Type in your favourite genre into YouTube and see what you come up with (I just did ‘English period drama’ and came up with some goodies).
  3. Bake a cake together.
  4. Watch your wedding video.
  5. Have a romantic supper at 9pm (or whenever the kids eventually go to sleep). Dress up in your nicest clothes.
  6. Sit and talk on the couch while eating half a dozen different flavours of fair trade chocolate.
  7. Make your husband his favourite dessert, and enough of it that can take some in his lunch the next day.
  8. Lie under the stars in the summer together.
  9. Do something playful, like built a fort and eat dessert inside it.
  10. Play board games.  Let him win.
  11. Massages.  That simple.
  12. Cook a three course meal together.
  13. Have a picnic on the floor in your PJs.
  14. Listen to music that you enjoyed when you first got together.
  15. If you really really have to get some jobs done, then do each job together.  Fold the laundry together.  Do the dishes together.  Tidy up together.  Do the budget together (or skip this last one if it’s not your idea of a fun date night). 🙂
  16. Dance.
  17. Kiss.
  18. Spend the evening writing a list of things you want to do together when the kids are older.  Like cycling, marathons, or tramping.  Or beach walks, attend a concert, or take an evening class of some sort together.  Just dream a bit.
  19. Sit together while you both read books.  Real books like in the olden days, not the digital kind.
  20. Do some fun things in the back yard, like play on the swing, climb the trees, or get in the kids sandpit.  Why not?
  21. Go to bed early.  Sometimes a good night’s sleep is the best thing to do together isn’t it?

Please share your ideas!

14 thoughts on “Date Nights at Home

  1. Lisette Defoe

    Loved, loved, loved it. There are not too many romantic focused couples out there. To add to yours, always be intentionally lovey dovey. Such as hold hands while driving. I always find myself grabbing his when I am driving.

  2. thehomeschoolingdoctor

    Thanks for the list! “18.Spend the evening writing a list of things you want to do together when the kids are older. Like cycling, marathons, or tramping. Or beach walks, attend a concert, or take an evening class of some sort together. Just dream a bit.” Love this one and plan on doing it!

  3. Jessica

    We do date night at home all the time. Usually it involves grilling a steak together or take out and simple things like games or movies. Last night we sat outside at the fire ring together for a while and talked and watched the embers after the kids went to bed.

  4. mwfinchwren

    Such sweet ideas, Victoria! I have to say as a homeschooling family our activities are more often with the 3 of us, not the two of us who originally started this family. Sometimes our recent “dates” have included just sitting in the backyard with our garden as we water it, and chatting in the peaceful quiet and beauty of God’s creation. (Ds would MUCH, MUCH rather be building Legos than hovering around the garden!)

    I wanted to share a wonderful movie that we bought back before Ds showed up (so that’s been a good 11 years); David Mamet’s “The Winslow Boy.” It is an inspiring tale of a father (in pre-WWI England) fighting to prove his son’s innocence, and it has a beautiful and quiet love story tucked in.


      1. mwfinchwren

        You and me both! “Lark Rise to Candleford” has been on our watch list for quite awhile….just haven’t gotten to watch it. Yet. But we’ll get to it eventually!

  5. Valerie

    Great list! I love the idea of dreaming about what we’ll do together when the kids are grown. 😀 Also, along the same lines, a date could be to take a fantasy trip together (from the comfort of our livingroom) and dream about what we’d do if we were traveling somewhere right now.

  6. Teresa

    Our best at-home dates are bathtub dates. I’m not trying to give TMI here, really, we often just sit in our big tub and talk. There are no distractions except each other. We can face each other and have a conversation without anyone going anywhere.


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